Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. — Jim Ryun
Many people wake up in their first days of retirement with a sense of urgency because of the years-long habit of waking at a set time to begin another workday. Then reality sets in, the urgency subsides, and you settle in for another day of whatever happens, happens – unless you have a daily plan.
Life in retirement is like a blank page. You have the freedom to write the script of your life according to your values, interests and ability. In other words, you get to do pretty much what you want, how you want, and when you want.
We know that establishing a daily routine that includes positive habits like set mealtimes, light exercise and hobbies helps us to stay grounded and productive. But before the ink dries on our habits, let’s be mindful of a couple of superpowers we possess as Retirees.
Spontaneity: Our daily routines are negotiable. This doesn’t mean that you treat them as unnecessary or unimportant. It does mean that you have every right to embrace spontaneous opportunities to try new things that keep life exciting. Retirement is not the time for self-limiting behavior. Strive for balance and keep yourself open to new experiences to enhance and maintain your happiness.
Chart your own course: This is your time to explore, learn and experience yourself (and the world) in new and diverse ways. Begin your journey by making informed decisions and taking deliberate steps. Continual learning and change are the keys to ensure that your life in retirement is happy and fulfilling.
That said, your superpowers do not exempt you from being susceptible to some of the booby traps of life in retirement that can prevent you from living the life you have earned and deserve. Do an honest self-inventory to make sure these happiness killers don’t take up residence in your head.
Change Resistance: Change at any age can be challenging, but it seems harder as we grow older. If we set our minds to embrace change, rather than resist it, life becomes more fulfilling as we’re rewarded with the confidence that comes with the acquisition of new knowledge and skills.
Negativity Overload: Analyze the negative and deal with the positive. This statement isn’t a denial of negativity, but recognizes the choice we can make to avoid being overwhelmed by negative emotions that can derail our physical and mental health. Acknowledge the negative event or aspect and address it with a positive mindset to seek a solution. Happiness in retirement isn’t automatic; it’s a choice made through our attitudes and reactions.
Future Fears: Beware that concerns about health, money and the unknown don’t invade your present life. Focus on things you have control over – namely, your attitude – and choose to embrace each moment with gratitude. This will give you the courage and optimism to live a happy and fulfilling life.
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao Tzu
You got this!
Happily yours, Arnette